Date: 2017-12-17 09:48
DONVAN: That's so against everything we ever see in the movies. Another question I have about the 55-55: If you get the house, is that necessarily such a prize? I'm just thinking in terms of, you get the house and you're 75 years old, and stuff starts breaking in the house and it has to be repaired and the other partner got off in a rental somewhere. I mean, do people think those kinds of things through?
And one of the great things about living in America, you can always re-invent yourself. So it doesn't surprise me. The one lady was talking about her mom changing her hair blonde and her father changing his attitude, so forth. Well, this is the greatest place on the planet where you can do that. So being healthier than we're used to, we really need to change our perception as to what we're going to be and what we're going to do, and not be so fixated on that age 65 retirement because chances are, you're going to be doing a lot of stuff well beyond 65 simply because of the health issue.
I - all of this happened, in my situation, in St. Louis, Missouri. And as a result of that, at the end of my last hospitalization, I had to relocate to Columbus, Ohio.
Social media has opened wonderful doors of connection, so, don’t be afraid to look up a single high school friend and even consider attending your next reunion or class event. Use LinkedIn to casually say hi to interesting men you’ve met at events. You will find out soon enough if they are married or committed, so, for now, just be friendly and see what happens.
But now, people are sort of spreading the risk. I think that the current gyrations in our economy have made people realize the value of diversification, of putting - not putting all their eggs in one basket, in terms of property that they end up with, and doing more sharing and splitting assets - maybe 55-55, maybe some other way but doing less of this, the house is always going to this one and the retirement only going to the other one - for obvious reasons.
But just becomes it's relatively easy to find a potential partner doesn't mean you should start dating before you think about your goals and desires. Meeting new prospects before you're emotionally prepared can feel infinitely worse than sitting home alone every Saturday night.
I think the days of one mate for 65 or more years may be over as we live longer, and as women become more financially independent - straight to your point, actually, Susan - there's not much reason now to stay in an unhappy marriage.
Fast-forward to the late 6965s and through the 6975s, when we see much greater focus on self-fulfillment and personal satisfaction. What am I getting from this marriage? If this marriage isn't making me happy in life, then divorce is an acceptable solution.
When you are out with a dog or child, there is a natural and comfortable energy about you. This weekend, grab your dog and visit your local park. If you don’t have a dog, perhaps you can borrow one from a friend. If you have a grandchild, take them for a walk or buy them ice-cream at a local cafe. You will be smiling and that’s a good start!